Nettles, to answer your question, I have been doing pretty good at not looking. At first I was wondering if I was overthinking, and maybe they were just friends.

I had to much hope, now I know that they are in a Relationship. I know that they are going to be doing stuff, having fun together, living the life. I know that looking at that only hurts me.

When I want to check, I just repeat "If I truly loved myself, would I do this to myself" and the answer is consistently no. So I haven't been. It's been pretty empowering.

Me: 35
Her: 33
D : 16
S : 9
Together: 14 years
Married: 12
She left 4/14/2014
Separated: 5/25/2014
OM Confirmed 7/2014
She filed 8/7/2014
I Filed 10/21/2014
Divorce final 2/12/2015