So if I really want to try to draw him back in, I wonder if I should pursue again. It seems so WRONG under the current circumstance, yet it's what worked previously. And I actually happen to have a big development at work I could share.
We have said no contact because it is FOR YOUR OWN protection because you were not able to control your mouth and emotions. If you are able to talk with H on the phone tonight and commiserate with him on handling his emotions with the OW in the office today, fine.
If you can't STFU and listen, then I'd suggest that you wait 24-72 hours until you are ABLE to support H.
