Thanks for your words. I'm trying. All communication has been focused on the kids, and it's been minimal at best.
I'm not going to lie, it is counter to everything I think. I feel like I should be making sure interactions are positive, ensuring that she has positive memories of me.
I am courteous and cordial in all communication. And don't get sucked into her spew. A few times when I have asked a simple question, she has gone off on me. I don't respond, and then usually get an apology.
One question, I usually call the kids at night to say goodnight, and also speak with them in the AM. She finds this incredibly irritating. I just want to speak to my kids. It's not the sword I'm going to fall on. I'd like to keep doing this because sometimes my work prevents me from seeing them as often as I would like. The S has made it a bit worse. She claims the kids don't need it. I guess I have to respect her wishes, just makes me sad. I don't want the kids to think I don't want to see or talk to them. When my W is away from them, there is zero communication.
Any thoughts on how to proceed with that? Acquiesce and respect her wishes? I feel that's what I need to do, just makes me sad.
