A while back you posted a beautiful post where you said that you didn't want to live in a world where people can change/withdraw their love in such an arbitrary way.

It really touched me...because I think we all struggle with this when it comes to MLC. So much of it is simply nightmarish. If someone had told me...the day my D20 was born...that this man would have the capability of shutting his children out of his life...or me?...I would never, ever have believed it.

I guess your situation strikes such a chord because it is the worst nightmare...watching someone you love/once loved blow themselves up, repeatedly, and, then, set themselves on fire. It's horrifying to watch and there SHOULD be an answer for that. A solution. At least closure. But, maybe there's not. It just is.

At the same time, it's very inspiring to see how you are managing your life and moving through it with grace and dignity.

Watching how you handle this...for yourself and your children...reminds me that something bigger is out there. No matter what kinda sh!tstorm they create, the important stuff really does still matter and it's just carnage for THEM...we move forward and live in the light...if we choose. We move through the grief and the pain and changes and adapt and learn to love again...in whatever way we are able. But, they still remain stuck. It's very tragic.

It reminds me of the prayer said at the beginning of many A.A. meetings. "Let us now pray for the alcoholic still struggling."

Last edited by LoisB; 07/21/14 03:57 PM.
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