Sandi... It DOES seem to be a regular convo for him to remind me of how hard his life is & how much simpler & more fun my life is (I have heard it for 20 years!!).... when he does this again next... any suggestions on what to say and how to handle it?
Either agree or give no response at all. He wants to whine and complain, not get advice for a solution. It is not an invitation to start reminding him of all that cr@p you've said before.
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Xbf did make a suggestion that my DD be the DD & for us to go together. That is probably not a good idea either... As much as I am worried about going, I probably should go
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Why are you worried about it? The mechanic works for you too, right? Don't go "with" xbf to the party. That's what gives him mixed signals, if one time you go with him and the next time you don't. Go to the party alone or with DD.
Sure, look great and have fun.
Who are you wearing the sexy new dress for? What are your motives here?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
