Wife walked aways (two months ago now) new thread

[BigMac]

Day1 complete of attending a conference with the W and the OP.

My plan was / is
1. Have a txt discussion bringing the affair and the debt to a discussion between us so W wouldn't be all defensive around me.
2. Work out
3. Avoid drinking to much (I did have a beer before an evening run)
4. Make sure to surround myself with friends

We has a good txt convo about the secrets. She knew that I already knew (I had mentioned it to her mother in conversation a while back)

W agreed bases on my text of working on our friendship no matter what
W said she doesn't trust me with her emotions, or that I had her best interests in mind. And that she guess's that will take time.
W also said that she questions my "big changes" and that will take time.

When I finally got confirmation from her that she is in a R with the other man it hurt. In my heart I felt like that was a confirmation of the failure of the M. My head kicked in and logic told me that the OP is nothing she would normally like, that these affairs are shallow and don't last.

I chose to out myself first. I took a drive down do the coast, walked (and cartwheeled) down the beach. Sat on a log and wrote. Cried at the loss, and tried to focus on being me, not us.

Good or bad, I'm doing my best to live my life.

I have to sit and think about her replies, I think that her being honest with not trusting me with her emotions is a good step, and that her cutting off the OP (which for her is most likely a crutch for her self esteem) will be the last to go.