My H announced he is arriving for 4 days and bringing her son with him to help pack up our house

How do I deal with that with dignity?
or do I forget DB and let him see how I really feel?
i explained how it made me feel and how difficult that would be.. How it was disrespectful and basically he said who cares..
The DB slipped and i was weepy and needy.. drat..

so now what..
stay pathetic, be mean, be dignified..all are possible..


M 10 T 14

BD 10/13
I really don't get it..