And btw, you MAY want to consider is advice I got from my DB coach.
The DB coach said if there is inappropriate talk with your spouse, (like of an OM/OW) then you get off the phone, end the conversation.
But when a WAS opens up about their life, you "LISTEN LIKE A LOVER".
Now, ^^that SORT of goes against things I think I've read elsewhere, but this was crystal clear from my DB coach, and not some "rules" we gathered into bullet points. This was serious advice.
I think it CAN make sense, depending on our situations.
In your case, You SAY you admit the issues that are YOURS, that you have been selfish and self centered in the past.
So your w opened up to you about HER life and HER days' events. She did not ask you about yours.
Since HER day bored you, and or wasn't about you, enough, you are now
"Sick of that crap". Hate to point this out, but do you See any old behavior here?^^^^
If I were you, I would start seizing & making the most of these opportunities to show her the new you
(the you who IS interested in HER day to day life, even the minute details, b/c that is what close, loving spouses DO)
Use those opportunities to SHOW her the new you!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
