uR I had a long chat with my youngest last night - we seldom talk about his father but he said- I am just so ashamed of my father and it is a horrible feeling.
My xh simply does not get how appalling his behaviour is, seen from the perspective of others.
Anyway I explained that I wanted to handle the legal action to let him down as gently as possible, because I do not want to fight, because I am sorry for him, and because I/we had a long and happy marriage which I still honour.
I do not want the equivalent of a screaming match in court. It goes against everything I believe in. It is not cowardice. This was my life partner and father of my wonderful children, reduced to suing me. Sometimes it feels like the waste or misuse of a part of my life.
I dislike what he has become, and do not want him in my life. He has done nothing to earn my attention or good opinion.
