No, she is a very very dull French woman! Not all French women are sophisticated and glamorous!! Catherine Denueuve she isn't (although I have been compared to her, she said modestly)
Bea, I’ve been reading your updates all along. I had one interesting thought this morning. What if you xh is going round two in his MLC? I mean he is cycling through the same phases again. He found the flaws in you again, he thinks you are the problem that his life is not going the way he wanted it, he marries OW trying to prove to himself and everyone else that this what he needed all along, he starts the law suit, trying to fight you over money… It looks like the start of insanity when MLC strikes for the first time.
I’m thinking he is stuck in one of the stages and subconsciously realizing it. Maybe this is why he is going backwards, trying to relive the insanity and hoping to get unstuck. Just my theory though…
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
Yes, I have wondered this also. I think it is also much too painful for him to come out. I suspect he wanted to but realised how much damage he had done to innocent people who didn't deserve it.
He does remind me now of how he was in the first two years of his crisis. He is definitely in Replay again with huge anger. More anger than ever. And really really blaming towards me. I am the source of all that is wrong, probably, in the world. Possibly responsible for the war in Iraq, and the Middle east,and undoubtedly started things up in the Ukraine
Well, OK perhaps I am slightly overstating it here but you get the picture/ And yet he told my future daughter in law last summer that I was a wonderful woman who he just couldn't be married to!! Since then he has spent the last eleven months pursuing a legal claim against me.
When I said it feels like a soap opera I really meant it. There is no reality, just a huge amount of drama, false accusation and blame!
uR I had a long chat with my youngest last night - we seldom talk about his father but he said- I am just so ashamed of my father and it is a horrible feeling.
My xh simply does not get how appalling his behaviour is, seen from the perspective of others.
Anyway I explained that I wanted to handle the legal action to let him down as gently as possible, because I do not want to fight, because I am sorry for him, and because I/we had a long and happy marriage which I still honour.
I do not want the equivalent of a screaming match in court. It goes against everything I believe in. It is not cowardice. This was my life partner and father of my wonderful children, reduced to suing me. Sometimes it feels like the waste or misuse of a part of my life.
I dislike what he has become, and do not want him in my life. He has done nothing to earn my attention or good opinion.
