also.. Heather... thanks for posting this.. please help me through it??
It sounds like you choosing to remain in the step below position instead of putting yourself on the pedestal where he is sitting. <<< hmmm, how do I get there?
He dangles his "possibility" of some distant equal business partnership and re-committed relationship in front of you like a carrot. It's always just outta reach. <<< YES!!! THIS has been my LIFE...
This keeps you vulnerable and weak. He is empowered by teasing you...like he did when he suggested YOU were the one who has it EASY. It's all very cat and mouse. <<< HE suggests I have it EASY... explain how this is teasing please? What would you say next? From where you sit, how do I not be the mouse?
I would like to empower myself...but not sure how/where other than what I have been doing recently to get off his pant leg & not accept his invites. This is where I can have some control....over me! I think this has helped me to reclaim some of my self value.... as awful/weird as it feels.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
