You need some and you need new tools for communicating and in my opinion,
I think you need a new thought pattern. You come off as very negative and suspicious which is usually insecurity.
I suggest one easy and small thing to do is watch the TED TALK videos by Shawn Achor and Amy Cuddy. One is on positive psychology and how we say or view things really changes our lives
and Amy Cuddy's is on "faking it til you Become it" and both talks are about 20 minutes and interestingly presented and on youtube.
It's a start. I think if you start to follow some new behaviors rather than waiting to feel differently, the behaviors will do some of that for you. In other words you ca change how you feel inside by what you do outside, at times.
Otherwise we wait and wait for 'internal inspiration" to make the changes we need and that leads us to being stuck. Inertia is powerful and overcoming that, is a big part of our journey.
Check out those videos and let me know what you think. Feel free to reflect here on what you think you are hearing b/c I'd like to know if something is reaching you at a deep enough level.
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Thank you so much!!
I watched both videos. The "Fake it to You Become it" was actually the most insperational to me.
The Positive Psychology is what I have been working with my IC on.
I am being reached deeply. My WW even said I have become a better man. What I realize I have to do is act like I am better do the things that make me better and eventually it will be who I am.
The issue for me is the slipups. Had I not got into a discussion with ww at the gym today or asked the anxiety driven questions I asked, I would be five steps ahead this weekend. The mistake I make is I get to focused on what she is up to or what I think of OM and it leads down the wrong Path.
I am going to try the power pose peice befoe I get into conversations with her.
I am also going to not let her have an effect on my happiness.
Its interesting though , she asks me how I kept busy yesterday while she was out. I ask if OM rented a car and I get attacked as being intrusive.
So I realize I don't have to answer her and this in turn will prevent me from questioning her.
The more I don't care what she is up to, the better off I will become.
