HE said that MY life is easier (comparison).... by saying that, this is button pushing? because this is where it turns into "poor HIM" type comments that lead into me feeling bad/sorry and then it turns into R talk? A circular R talk, that we have had a million times. ...???
It was button pushing in the sense you JUMPED on the chance to tell him ONCE AGAIN how you offered......yada, yada. YOU have had the R talk a million times. And yes, each time you "remind" him that he rejected your offer....it is a R talk. Are you telling me you aren't sharp enough to know that???
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Based on yesterday, I didn't get into it too bad... I just mentioned that it was his choice and how I was willing a month ago to make things different. The convo was short & due to time, was rushed.
No, it wasn't as long but only b/c there wasn't enough time, or you would have gone through the entire thing again. But whether it's two minutes of "mentioning" it or two hours....a R talk is a R talk. You have to stop it. Repeating this same mistake over and over is insane! Why do you feel such a strong need to REMIND him? It will not change his mind, plus you devalue yourself. For a woman who goes around claiming how she values herself, you sure give the message to him that you aren't worth much.
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I don't understand how he can say he doesn't recall my offer...(during a R talk over a month ago, I was pretty clear about getting back together and how we may not have it all together, but together we have it all, and he said he would think about it) GRRR
Seriously? You don't get it? How can you be a successful salesperson and not know when you are getting a snow job?!?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
