I know I should probably let go of expectations but I can't help but imagine how this might play out. One thing about H is he's very expressive, not verbally but in his demeanor. When I'm re-attracting him it's very easy to tell. When he's pulling away it's very easy to tell too. It's a very attractive characteristic when he's into you but very painful when he's rejecting. I keep imagining that OW likely has not seen this side of him. If he decides that he is truly going to try to push her out she maybe quite shocked and hurt by his demeanor towards her. I'm sure she thinks she really knows him inside and out but I can guarantee she so does not. On the other hand, if he has a warm demeanor towards her no doubt that will fan the flames for both of them.
I really think he would like to do the right thing and reject her but I'm not confident he is able. Obviously, he let himself do the wrong thing by getting involved in the first place. But now it's out in the open (his parents and older son know he had an A) and I really think he does not want to continue to demonstrate such a destructive, hurtful choice, especially to his older son who is getting married soon.
These next few weeks are going to be so telling. I could see things coming to a head quickly, i.e., if he is rejecting towards her and she gets upset and/or tries to put pressure on him I think that could really turn him off. On the other hand, if he continues to pull away from me that will be very telling as well. I think if he wants to be with her he will likely move to divorce rather quickly so he can try to save some moral ground with his family and especially older son. Of course another possibility is she may not be interested in him at all any more, although it's a little hard to imagine that her motives for coming here have zero to do with him.
There are so many possibilities, I know I shouldn't speculate, it will just make me bananas. Hopefully dumping it all here will enable me to let it go somewhat. We will have to see each other next Saturday for a kid exchange, I think that's good so I have a chance to get a vibe from him in person.
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
