Thanks, Ben! I'll look into that asap. I often feel that, now looking back, that we weren't speaking the same love language. I did what a lot of people, men in particular, do and that is love my W like I wanted to be loved. Instead, I should have been more aware of how she needed and wanted to feel love from me. Live and learn, I suppose.
Gotan - I wish I could say that it was easy, but it's not been. As Carnegie said, "Anything in life worth having is worth working for." Unfortunately, it seems we're on a bit of a backslide. Since the kids have been gone, I've seen my W one time in the last 3 weeks and that was to pick her up from the airport after she dropped the kids off for their summer visit to the in-laws. I've gone dark save one slip-up. She's contacted most days by text of FB message to ask questions about the kids or computer stuff she doesn't understand. I can only hope that she is missing not seeing me on the weekends like before. In the meantime, I'm doing my best to get in shape so that when it comes time for her to fly out to get the kids and I take her to the airport, I'm looking pretty darn good and that image sticks with her the whole flight.
M:35 W:31 S: 9 D: 5 M: 11.5 yrs BD: 5/13 W moved out: 7/13