Hi train, I have spent the past couple of days reading your threads, my sitch resonates with me, my H had his first a 5 years ago, we "worked it through"(read ignored it, pretend it never happened) he began s 4 months ago, officially moved into his own place 2 months ago, had 2nd a Nov last year, he's just said he's stated seeing same ow last wweek, Umm yep that's the official line! could you do me a huge favor and check out my threads, it's be nice to hear your take on it all smile