The point of having the discussion is to get it out on the table. In the past W would get really really really angry when she was hiding stuff. The guilt that she felt would turn into resentment towards me. If I get it out and address it, she will blow up in the short term, but then at least just have her behavior, and not the anger from the guilt.
As for the OM I just had to check, I just unfollowed him (though now I just realize that he is apparently at the same conference as the W and me.
It looks like 1. No drinking at the conference 2. On avoidance plan for a bunch of different people 3. Just make it through every day without getting dragged into their crazy BS.
Me: 35 Her: 33 D : 16 S : 9 Together: 14 years Married: 12 She left 4/14/2014 Separated: 5/25/2014 OM Confirmed 7/2014 She filed 8/7/2014 I Filed 10/21/2014 Divorce final 2/12/2015
