He works ridiculous hours so if he moves out, I will quite literally not see him unless it is to exchange our daughter. A "hi, how'd things go?" or a "she has karate on Friday at 5 pm" isn't going to be enough for him to see ANYTHING let alone permanent changes I'm making. And let's say he does recognize changes, he will just say, "that's great" and move on. He won't relate it back to himself or our relationship.
Not true at all. In my situation, my W and I separated, and I had zero contact with her other than a single daily text from whichever one of us did not have the kids asking to facetime with the kids. We would then see eachother briefly every 10 days or so to swap kids. But I used the time to myself to do some 180s, and when I did have contact with her, I made sure every second counted. 6-7 weeks into this and she is contacting me and being very friendly and affectionate. This from a person who was completely checked out in May and was having an A.
It is important though you do not underestimate the amount of time and patience you will need to save your M, if it can be saved. It took years to break your H, it will take a long time to pick up the pieces and put him back together.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
