Wife walked aways (two months ago now) new thread

[BigMac]

I have not had the discussion yet, I am getting advice from people. I am focusing on doing things "the right way" at least with positive outcomes. Part of that is thinking before I speak and act.

Also, me going to the new town was a mental thing for me. Early on she had sad she decided that she was moving to the new town (1800 miles away). I had been feeling like the tip of the whip, and I needed to be cool with the move personally.

The only way of doing that was to go out exploring neighborhoods, meet up with some friends there, and have a PMA about it. It turns out that I love the town, and I think i'll do really well there (I am lucky enough that I can work anywhere in the world).

And yes, I have a credit card statement that made its way to the house. This has been an ongoing issue over our marriage, compulsive spending. Basically W was never content with anything, always wanted more. Always compared herself to others vs being confident in the life we built and what we had. It is a sickness, and I supported it. I have a huge responsibility in creating that monster.

Now, she wants more young life, or more OP, etc etc. Regarding the OP she was getting very sloppy on social media, and posting stuff. She also got onto live TV while on dates, and multiple checkins during a weekend getaway. At this point, now that it is confirmed, i'm in live and let live mode.

She has a right to do what she can to help her find happiness, and so do I. At some point she may come out of this stupidity. Either way I have to focus on continuing my healing and growing through this. That is exactly what I have been doing.

I have unfollowed her on all social media