"Speak Softly": The Amoeba Whisperer!

[GoatGal]

Crisis Posting: Now I'm Getting Nervous!

OK, so I have dropped the rope as much as possible, gone as dark as I feel comfortable with, kept all interactions pleasant and upbeat.

This has been a good six weeks now.

If anything, I do not feel pursuit from him.

I see him mirroring my distancing.
The whole dating site profile, no longer contacting me except for the most basic stuff--- I really felt him reaching out to me a few weeks back but I didn't respond beyond just being pleasant and brief.

I left for my trip and for the first time he didn't ask me to let him know I arrived safely, didn't text "are you there yet?" or anything.

In fact, he seemed very self-absorbed.
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I've gone dark.
He has gone darker.

Our history has neither of us as pursuer.

I think in some ways we'd pursue and distance in different ways at different times.
He would call me a lot, I'd rarely pick up the phone.
I preferred to talk in person.

I'd try and pin him down for some face time and he acted put out.
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I don't know if I'm reading too much into this, but it feels like he's giving up on me.
(Not an assertive man, he said he wanted to "move on" and for me to "let him go" but he never said he wanted ME to "move on"!)

Thoughts?

I'm stressing a bit.
I feel like I should call him...

You'd think if he saw me moving on he'd act in some way.

But instead I *think* he figures it's over.

We were a lot closer weeks ago, calling and texting, laughing and hanging out a bit.

Now he's looking for companionship elsewhere, and I KNOW this is very recent from the bank/credit/phone charges.

The last thing I want to do us drive him away and I strongly feel that's what's happening.

I'm not sure how to proceed.

I don't want crumbs and I don't want to be in the "friend zone", but I haven't been available at all to even be friendly.

What to do?

----GGG