busting, Your h is slowly waking up and he's on the right track. Take things slowly and even if you opt to have him move back home and he sleeps in a separate bedroom...that is a start. Many of them move home and sleep in another room, etc., until they feel more comfortable being in a relationship once again w/the spouse.
Reconnection takes a lot of time and patience. Things will be different because both of you are different now. Expectations will have be lowered on your part and do not expect him to be the way he was before. Both of you will be starting out fresh and learning how to begin anew. Patience, patience and more patience.
It's reasonable to be scared of the unknown...but if things work out and you both strive to make this a new marriage, I think your marriage could be even better than before...but you have to keep your expectations at zero and learn to follow his lead and dig for patience.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
