he was pressed for time as he was trying to get a lot stuff done before heading to the family party. Even though he was rushing, he offered to bring coffee back to the shop when he could have had his coffee at home by himself & not be so rushed. There was no need for him to come back to the shop & have coffee/cookies.
Back at the shop: The RE Agent randomly pops by... he introduces us. She is an older overly bubbly/friendly woman. Not at all his type for looks either. She seems happy to meet me. She discussed how they met & how the whole RE process started with him. She leaves. He starts again how happy he is to be getting the location & discusses painting & options, etc. He then gets into how overwhelmed he is with stuff & his mom & is doing it alone. He says my life is easier. I stated that it was his choice as over a month ago I offered for things to be different. He said he doesn't recall me making offers. I then told him that he needs to learn how to cope & balance stress & fun. To inject fun when you can. That is why he is going to take his parents to the family function for 3 hours (to put a smile on several peoples face) & then come back & get prepared to clean up for the appraiser. He is wanting my help tomorrow moving vehicles.... this could have turned into another R talk.... but, it didn't, thank god there was no time!
Ken... I am happy with my response to the invite. I did not say it, for an attempt to carry the convo forward. I ended it.
Heather.. thanks for acknowledging my progress. When you say NOT going is HUGE... can you explain why?
As you mentioned earlier... it feels weird... and yuk. I don't like this one bit. However, I think that I would have gone & felt hopeful tomorrow, just to be let down again. I guess it feels better than chasing him, tho.
This is VERY hard for me to 1) break the addiction of approval and of HIM and 2) hard for me to put myself and my future first.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Heading into the city tonight with a group of people for dinner. THANK GOD for friends who keep me going!
Last edited by makingmagic; 07/19/1407:39 PM.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
