I don't see her as just being overly emotional. I just think she can't control this. She's done what she can and needs to relinquish the idea she can control -- watch and see what choices her H makes. They are certainly in a treacherous place. He did the damage while OW was away, so proximity isn't the only factor in play.
But I defer, Starsky, I'm in the forest and you can see the trees.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15