4. If your financial needs are being met and your family is relatively stable for the moment, and you and your H are getting reacquainted, then what is the purpose in rushing that process? If taking your time and getting to a place where you both are mutually enthusiastic about being together increases the probability of not finding yourself in this place again, then why would you want to shortchange that?
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I don't see MDU "rushing the process" so much as I see her trying to PROTECT and NURTURE the process, and rightfully so. She has every right to be concerned about new, daily, close-quarters contact between her husband and the OW at this early stage in their reconciliation. Even purely PHYSIOLOGICALLY, it's a problem, as the contact is going to cause her husband's brain endorphins to start juicing again.
This is one area I do NOT see this as just " ol' mdu, being all emotional." There is a ton of excellent infidelity research and experience that makes it very wise to be so strongly against allowing the pyromaniac to be working daily amongst the matches and the kerosene.
