You're not alone. Others have come out on the other side. Read Train's thread in infidelity, it is astounding.

See a solicitor. It will set your mind at ease.

Don't talk to your H when you get your boys. You are in shock and need time to process.

I'm not sending you a 2x4 because what you need is a hug. So...

(((Watto)))

Me42, H40
D12, S8, S7
A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.