Yes, I think that second thing about the transparency sounds reasonable.
It may also have been a test to see just how demanding you were going to be.
But I wasn't talking quite so much about the transparency plan as about your previous post asking how you could boost his commitment to the M. I think the answer is, you can't. He has to get there on his own. I see it in your sitch, in Train's, in Thornton's, Ben's, and even in mine, incomplete as it is.
But he is clearly moving in that direction, so I suggest you let him move there at his own pace and stop talking about the marriage as though reconciliation had already happened, rather than being a place you're moving towards.
Does that sound reasonable?
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
