"How much time have you really spent thinking about what YOU want from a relationship? I realize you're working on your anger issues and everything. But have you thought about what values and needs of yours weren't being met in the M? Because this isn't all about your anger and your H's A. Your anger came from someplace. Do you feel like you understand that piece?"
I agree, I need to give this more thought. I think IC which I start later this week will help.
"But you are sounding a little controlling in wanting to force all this commitment and transparency on him and it seems to me that even the boldest squirrel would run off if you kept hurling the nuts at him like this. "
Here's where things get really confusing with him. He asked, multiple times, for my transparency plan. He's been wanting clarity from me. But then it seems I give it and things sorta backfire. Or maybe what I need to accept is just because he wants to see it right now doesn't mean he's ready to adhere to it, kwim?
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
