I am thinking through two possible paths to follow in the near term and curious for feedback:
option #1). Essentially Train's plan. Say nothing about OW, keep things light and easy. Spend fun, flirty time with H in an effort to reattract him. Given this will likely be very tough for me to STFU about OW, especially since she will be in the office with him starting next week, I will try this for one week and reassess. For support to help keep me on track I have both a DBing and an IC appointment next week and, of course, I will post here constantly
option #2). Lay a boundary with H regarding OW now being in the office. Tell him that it's too difficult and painful for me and I can't spend time alone with him or together with the kids until he's willing to discuss how we can make this situation more comfortable for me with a marriage counselor. (I'm thinking we probably really need a marriage counselor to help us navigate through any further discussion about OW).
option #3). Combo. Do option #1 for as long as I can stand it then move to option #2.
Thoughts?
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
