Scorp, I believe what helped turn my situation around was being myself when I was around her. We had a couple dinners together after little to no contact for 4 months. I believe it was during these interactions that she started to see whom I was becoming and the changes I wanted to see in myself. Also I believe, as had been told to me many times, there is nothing more attractive than being a good father to your kids.
Also like has been said, slow and steady, no need to be too eager.
I stayed patient many times when I wanted to try and reconcile too soon. I know how frustrating it is to move at their pace. That is why GAL is important. Keep busy and work on you and keep being a good parent.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15