1 step forward, 1000 steps back - part 2

[Barrybran]

Being in a different time zones means a LOT of catching up. I have a couple of thoughts:

Boundaries - mdu says she can't feel safe while H is in contact with OW but they will be working in the same office from next week. The question that stands out for me is are you (mdu) prepared to NOT have a relationship with your H while he and OW are working together OR is there something that your husband can do/not do/say/not say/whatever that will help you feel more comfortable with the situation so you may have a chance to reconcile despite his work situation?

Medium - mdu has an obvious problem with outbursts and successfully drew her husband back in by keeping things light and positive. I'm wondering if the vets feel there may be an opportunity to, for the short term, use written communication for the heavier stuff (read, STFU, think, respond; less chance of outbursts) while keeping phone/in-person interactions for the lighter stuff where she can be light, flirty and sexy and leave H with a positive impression? I feel it will give mdu a chance to learn to deal with negative information more productively without risking H seeing her emotions. Of course, long term, those skills would be transferred to phone/in-person interactions.

Also, I may have missed it but I can't recall seeing it anywhere, please please please don't go to H's work. Despite the recent setbacks you have come a long way and you know your triggers.