1 step forward, 1000 steps back - part 2

[Train]

I don't think saying, "I cannot feel safe until ..." is a boundary. I'd call that a statement. And it's a weak one at that. It doesn't put clearly-defined boundaries around anything.

No wonder there's a little confusion about how to respond/communicate now that OW is moving too close to home!

Starsky, you're my go-to guy for boundary-setting. Seems we may have hit a snag here. "Modifying" a boundary is surely right up there with re-stating a boundary when it comes to weakening boundaries.

So would mdu be "safe" in re-examining that boundary and tweaking it a bit, considering the recent development in the work environment? How could she do that to keep the lines of communication with her H open but also to make clear that she won't indulge in an emotional/physical relationship with him as long as he's "in contact" with OW ... when "contact," as of Monday, is a done-deal???

I'm confused FOR her right now.