Why are you so focused on diagnosing W ? You need to detach.

You posted earlier that you were studying Buddhism. This is one of my favorite quotes from the Buddha. It applies to you and W.

"No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path." - Buddha

me: 45 W:45
M 20 years
T 22 years
S14, S13, S11, D9
BD 2/28/14
D papers served 3/3/14
I moved out 3/15/14
MC start 4/2/14
I moved in 6/2/14
D suit withdrawn 6/30/14