Dealing with WAW Part 2

[25yearsmlc]

Pilot,

I get why my mom wrote what she did. I get it was done from the heart and with good intentions. I just wish she had not.

Why not? Because you feel compelled to side with your Dad and display your loyalty to him? Or does the letter bring up uncomfortable truths under the surface about your M?

One it was a letter based on less than all of the information available. Two, letters go against the non pursuing.


Pilot, I am screwing my head in the ceiling at this moment.
Please stop saying it's against the RULES...OMG...

And the letter came from your mother, not you. The "rules' would not apply anyhow, not to mention that they are guidelines and merely assembled one afternoon and used as generalities

with the proviso that you NEED to know your own situation well enough to know when NOT to apply something. Hence your claim about the confusion re: "not complimenting your wife'
even though it's her LL and

even though it was an identified problem between you two AND

even though you knew it was having positive results

you claim to believe you had to stop doing what worked, b/c it was "pursuit".

Pilot, I call BS on that. You're a lot smarter than this^^. At least be more honest with yourself if not us.


And last, maybe some resentment at her trying to insert herself into something important in my life when she made a choice to be absent from much of it.

Okay, So you are still punishing your mom. She is either literally unforgivable and or you are literally incapable of forgiving. So, what do you want to teach your kids about this?

(What about when they "fail" you?)

And YES there is a pattern here.

Do you see it?