She says she's conflicted (part 2)

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YES!

what happens is, if you spend months and months focused on them, it becomes habitual. your mind will go back to those thoughts on its own. it will then require constant effort to think of something else. you have to give yourself something else to focus on, something healthy.

I am understanding this now. I really need to focus the next three weeks or I will make myself nuts.

I also have to stay away from other boards, they want me to divorce her, that puts the focus on her again.

I just need to work on me...