"My life coach/friend suggests: I don't think its a good idea because of where we are... I'm not comfortable going, it would feel strange.... i don't think I'm ready."
yes these are your feelings.
just because they're your feelings does not mean you need to share them with him.
of course, you can tell him this, but as Heather so clearly put it, this is what "drives EXBF crazy and running for the hills"
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
