In the moment the thought crossed my mind that I should be more collaborative. But then I thought 'his mess, he cleans it up' and felt I shouldn't offer any ideas.

I guess how could I be collaborative yet not cleaning up his mess for him, kwim?

(Dang, I really feel like a emotional retard!).

M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14