It actually makes me think that maybe I should have been more collaborative last night? Communicate in some way "Hey, let's work this out together" rather than "I'm going to interrogate you and you BETTER give me the right answers!" That wasn't at all my intent going into it . . .
Yes, that was EXACTLY what you were advised here, just yesterday afternoon (I wanna say it was by Wonka -- I'd have to look). This really shouldn't have caught you by surprise, mdu.
Look, I know I'm being hard on you, but you simply can't afford to keep making the same mistakes, over and over -- especially when it comes to what is probably your husband's #1 core issue (your emotional reactivity). You've GOT to start applying the advice more consistently. Doing it AWKWARDLY is to be expected (as it won't be natural to you); not DOING IT AT ALL simply isn't an option.
