You DO REALIZE, don't you?, that whether you go or not...he still doesn't want a relationship right now. And, the course of the REST of YOUR LIFE will not hinge on this one event.

He's a moot point in your life right now. You two are NOT in a relationship. You are alone. For today, that's the reality. Embrace it. No action, comment, cup of coffee, cookie or event will change this FOR TODAY. In this moment, you are completely alone, just like all of us.

And, you are ok. Just as you are today. Breathe it in and exhale. YOU ARE OK. You have been alone and have been handing it. For today, be the independent woman you want to be...you must want it or you wouldn't be here.

Tell the little girl that it will be ok, not because he will come back, but BECAUSE YOU ARE GOING TO TAKE CARE OF HER. REASSURE HER. It's ok to miss what was...but, he is no good for you today.

MM...try an experiment, just for today. Talk that little girl down off the cliff. Reassure her that she will be ok even if he never, ever comes back.

Imagine yourself at five years old...And, imagine how much energy you invest in HIM...that energy could be invested in YOU...in her. She needs you and you continue to neglect her and ignore her and try to make things right by filling that empty void with more HIM. It won't work. He is gone.

For today, he is gone...even if he is two inches away from you...he is still gone, gone, gone.

Last edited by LoisB; 07/18/14 04:17 PM.
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