We are in general agreement in the approach methods.
Originally Posted By: Starsky
but I personally would never waver in my "End all contact with OW/OM and come back and work on the marriage with me, and I think you'll find me ready and willing to discuss and work on all issues, including my own" stance.
How? The OW will be, as MDU says, 20 to 25-feet from H in their small office.
The fact of the matter is that MDU needs to work with that reality in front of them. I am of the opinion that by bringing up OW and getting angry is not helping them at all.
For this to work, MDU must shift the focus from the OW away to her and the M. Make it about "team" Mr. and Mrs. MDU.
Of course, having the OW moving in the facility will stir up some memories and feelings for H which is why he is feeling so conflicted because he has made moves and strides in disengaging from the OW as evidenced by dates with MDU and whatnot. I can bet the Kent Farm that he's probably thinking to himself..."Oh chit! Now this??!! I just don't need OW around here."
This is a new wrinkle for H and MDU. Next week will be a real test for H as well in how he handles it.
