Finally found DB...New here

[dawgy]

MLP , your sitch and mine are practically identical . I m not going to discount anyone elses opinion on your sitch here , but I do see where you are coming from practicing 180 s . Stroking his ego perhaps is an example . You said he didnt get that from you so your giving it to him . I totally get it . That is a 180 from what you used to do . Im doing the same to my wife . Theres a few things that are hard to understand with the DB ing technique for sure but in the end I must agree with Sandi " you must do what works to save your Marriage "

The same technique wont nessecarily work for every sitch . I believe there must be variations of DBing employed to fit all situations .It seems that you are remaining close to your husband which is excellent in my opinion. He will only be able to see how kind and supportive youve been through this whole ordeal .However i have to agree with KGirl to the fact that he is cake eating , and you know it and how long you allow this to go on is up to your tolerance . I know because im in the same situation .Sooner or later we will have to draw a line in the sand so to speak and say enough is enough and go last resort . So it seems . I know exactly how you feel , Im basically allowing cake eating hoping that affair will burn out and her behavior will return to normal and the fog will lift .

Im not ready for LTR . And I dont think anybody should implement it if they are not completely ready for the out come . If it doesnt go the way you want you may cave in and you dont want that . If your like me your feelings toward him have slowly changed as time has progressed and i think that thats how you will know when to say enough is enough . When you realize you cant wait any longer for him to stop all contact with OW . Then in my opinion it would be time for LTR