I'm pretty sure my W will accuse me of being controlling and manipulative with respect to my boundary, of no friendship if she is involved with the OM. Any tips on how to discuss this if it comes up? Or maybe just not discuss until the OM is gone?
She will. Put up your hand and say, "I am sorry you feel that way. I am doing this to protect myself and our family. What you're doing with the OM is incredibly disrespectful to me and our family."
In her mind the OM is a non-factor. She even stated that to blame the OM puts too much weight on that R.
She's trying to play the shell game with you. Trying to divert your attention away from the seriousness of her affair with the OM by minimizing it. Silly woman!
She doesn't feel she's having an affair because we are seperated right now. That justifies it in her mind. But I also know she is sick about other people referring to her A, she is very embarrassed, and hates the fact this is happening.
That skewed rationalization of the affair is pretty much par for the course in the WAS thought process. They should be embarrassed for parading the OM/OW around town!
