-my W was under the impression that she would move right back in if we R, and I reiterated that that was not an option, she would keep her own place and we would have to start over, dating etc.
Nicely done!
Wonka, how does this part work while ensuring OM is not in the picture? Ideally should W agree to full transparency while living apart? I suppose if W gave the 'I'll do whatever it takes speech' you'd have a little more trust in her actions, but when W mentioned this to me, my first thought went to her having OM over to her place. Of course in my case W and I are not working on R.
Tarheel,
The key meaning behind the R above is reconciliation. Not relationship. A bit different right there.
There can be no full transparency while W is actively involved with OM. Full transparency occurs only when there's a break-up with the OM/OW and wanting to work on the M. Then the LBS pulls out the transparency plan to the WAS.
