Thanks Ben! It's always interesting to get feedback from males--you guys make it easier for me to understand what's going in my H mind--from a male perspective anyway.
I was reluctant about the homeowner's thing but pushed forward because my name is on the contract too. Not that he would be spiteful and totally screw me over. We're nearing completion of the build and soon it will be closing day. I've let things play out for the past several weeks. I'll do my part of the document trail and forward it to him to finish it off and get it back to the lender. He's done the majority of the work but has procrastinated on the important stuff like providing proof that we've reduced our debt-income ratio. Basically all the final documents we need to provide prior to final loan approval has not been submitted.
I get what you mean by being too helpful. My primary motivation was not just to save "our" behinds but my behind more so. Not that I wasn't sincere in my effort to notice and validate his "stress." My natural inclination is to just take care of it if I can so it can be out of the way. This did not sit well with him and made him feel like I was not considering the fact that he may have an opinion different from mine or how I do things. I hope that made sense. So in my effort to do a 180 I decided to be cooperative and listen to what he was really saying. Which in his pathetic passive-aggressive lingo meant "I need you to do your part too." You're right though. His plate is full by his own doing not mine. I'm so glad to have time away as it has really helped me detach/GAL and value myself again.
Thank you for the patience compliment. Long-suffering is my cross to bear and I'm far from being where I'd like to be in being patient.
