NAP, Part of my W's MLC is a need she has to NOT need me. I would always save her when she was in trouble. I would always take over when she needed help. It really bothers her to "need" me! Maybe this is what your H is going through. He wants to be able to do things for himself. He wants to be independent, be the guy who takes care of himself (why he likes the OW blowing smoke). It doesn't bother him to help you but he bothers him to need your help. He's a young, capable guy! (In his mind) He doesn't need anything from the person who ruined his life and he has to get away from, right? I'm willing to bet it bugs him to no end that he needs your help doing the applications.
Be careful with this. You and I know you are doing it as a favor, because you want to. He may not like that you doing it for him because it bothers him that he needs the help. This is something I needed to learn about my W. The more she needed my help, the more she disliked me because of HER need.
