I'm married to a verbally and emotionally abusive woman. We were married in the Church. We’ve been married for 9 years. No children. The first 5 years were good. Then her true colors came out.
She started calling me names like “loser” and “stupid.” I told her to stop. She wouldn’t. I said I would divorce her if she didn’t stop verbally abusing me. After I brought up divorce she called me names every time we argued. Like she was daring me to divorce her.
After a weekend of fighting I got tired of taking her crap and moved out.
I cut off communication and immediately filed for divorce.
She refused to sign the divorce papers and demanded we see a marriage counselor. I agreed because I thought it would do some good. We attended one session. It was a disaster. My wife refused to take responsibility for her abuse.
I left the counseling session and hired an attorney.
When my wife received notice I was proceeding with a divorce without her consent she begged me to come home. She agreed to go to counseling and get help for her anger. I dropped the divorce and moved home.
Everything was fine for about a month and then her rage started again. She blamed me for ruining our marriage and turned the marriage counselor against me. For the next year I lived in a constant state of fear. Almost daily my wife told me how I ruined our lives.
We have seen four different counselors. None of them have been able to help us.
About a month ago my wife told me she read my emails.
She was angry because she thought I was saying inappropriate things about her to my friends. I was alarmed to learn she was invading my private space. I changed all my passwords immediately.
This enraged my wife. She said I changed my passwords because I was hiding something. She accused me of having a girlfriend.
I said I changed my passwords because I don’t want her snoping into my private life.
I can’t take my wife anymore. Her anger. Her controlling behavior. It’s too much. I want to be married but I need peace. I don't know what to do.
