Wife is Continuing Affair-When Do I Start LRT IV

[PeterV2]

Dev, you handled the meeting well.

She told me it's a nothing relationship, but he is now her best friend.

If she's being honest here, then that's a good thing. It means the A is starting to feel the strain of the sitch. It's going down in flames soon. She will have a hard time of it when it does. But don't expect her to come running back to you when it's over with OM. She'll still have a ton of guilt and feelings of loss of the A. It's natural.

Yes, the best thing you can do is not talk to her about your R until the OM is completely out of the picture forever. If she starts to talk about the R then ask her if the OM is out of the picture and the A is over. If it isn't then just tell her well then there's nothing to talk about and walk away.
This is advice from Sandi. It worked with me. But still my W is not running back into my arms. She's still conflicted. Still angry at me. And stuck with that anger and fine with being stuck. She says it's part of the process. I just give her time.

Even going dark is good for your sitch right now. I agree with Wonka. You said it all in your letter. Now you just have to stick to your word. Keep strong my friend.