Boy I feel alot better talking about this! Everyone of us have been through the exact same thing!
Yes My Ex thinks Im the responsible one for his rocky relationship with D14. He felt it was all my fault that they were uncomfortable with him in the first place after this. Yes, I brainwashed them! And I know his wife is sitting there just agreeing with him on all of this, and possibly the one that put these ideas in his head in the first place!I mean XH wasn't the type of person to think up such insane lies about people when he was "sane". In fact he used to be quite perceptive of people, he just never cared to talk about it.
I noticed as MLC was gaining strength he became so negative about EVERYONE! He never had anything nice to say, there was always some sort of criticism!
Im having a hard time lately with all of this. I live in a very small town. And as I get to know new people at work, I find out that they're all related to OW and OW's EXH that tried to kill my XH in the first place. And come to find out, no one is a fan of OW and many people don't like her. Yet people don't have anything bad to say about the OW's EXH.
Apparently he was a hard working man that was completely devoted to Ow for over 26 years. There's nothing he wouldn't do for this woman... and apparently this woman was a happy woman at one time. As I put the pieces together, I think OW started to have MLC, because as memory calls, she was acting alot like XH.... way before XH started acting like OW!! Honestly, I feel for OW's ExH. I don't agree with what he did... but to be honest I see where and why he lost control. It doesn't make it ok. And He is serving his time and he's permanently disabled from his choices.
You guys It's like I just can't ever get away from this! It's like a bad dream Im still running from but can't ever escape. The most horrible nightmare I ever had that I can't forget.
Will this wound every heal? Or will the scabs always be poked only to bleed out from time to time for many years to come?
Sometimes I really think that moving away and starting over is the best thing but only for ME. Yet my girls are so happy here in this town, and are doing so well, I don't want to cause any more ripple for them than they've had to deal with as it is.
Im just so tired of having to be so damn courageous and brave all the time I guess.
