Just musing as I'm working with my patients here, I'm pretty sure my W will accuse me of being controlling and manipulative with respect to my boundary, of no friendship if she is involved with the OM. Any tips on how to discuss this if it comes up? Or maybe just not discuss until the OM is gone? In her mind the OM is a non-factor. She even stated that to blame the OM puts too much weight on that R. By saying I didn't care about the OM, and I saw and recognized the issues we had prior to the A, I tried to show her I realize the OM is a symptom of a R that had lost it's way.
She doesn't feel she's having an affair because we are seperated right now. That justifies it in her mind. But I also know she is sick about other people referring to her A, she is very embarrassed, and hates the fact this is happening.
Anyways, I'm rambling. Sorry for the multiple posts everyone. Long day today.
