So how did my sharing impact his behavior? It's hard to say as he also has terrible things going on at work and is really down. Two changes that are apparent- the night I mentioned being upset he was compassionate and didn't seem like he needed to " run" because he couldn't handle my hurt on top of his. Also made a point to say he likes seeing me. Second is that when he is hurt or down- he's reaching out to me. He texted, and called and some of them he would say " just to say hi" but I could tell he needed to talk and I made sure I listened and supported. It's been awhile since he's come to me to talk when he's really upset about those things.
He was still a bit distant in person but I just let him have his space and go do things he needed to ( dinner with friends last night etc). He flew out to LA today to interview for that new position. They want him to move- which he is not willing to do ( yay!!) but said it was a nice ego boost to see himself valued. When I said the right doors will open soon- he said he's just going to open them himself. I love that! And I said I was happy for him that he was seeing his abilities in a positive light. And to let me know how I can help.
You are so right that he is going to have to catch up to ME, and has even said watching me shows him how far he has to go. I will be the lighthouse.
And in the meantime I'm going to a 4 day scrapbooking weekend with the girls next week, and then a cruise with my mom, daughter and close friend in a few weeks. I can have happy and fulfilling without him- but sure would love to have it with him
And I see glimpses that he would like that too.....
By the way FY you need to start a new thread to keep us updated on you!
Me 41 H 40 M 20 T 23 S 19,16, 8 D 13 BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015 Life is about daring greatly, about being in the arena- Brene Brown
