Thanks for the response, Dev. I added a few things since, but I think I'm safe.
She just asked me for some cash, for while I'm gone. I hate it, because I know she will use it for the salon visit before seeing OM next week, and she was also looking for enough cash to do a L consult about D while I'm gone. i.e. although I fund her CC, (to the same level as child support would be) it's transparent, so she wants some cash for those "hidden" expenses.
This always puts me in a spin. It's controlling not to give her cash, but it irks me because I know what it's for. I don't want her too upset before I give her this letter tomorrow, and it's all I can do to hold back "no cash while you have A". I guess I'll let it go this time until we talk when I get back. If we opt for the filing plan, then no cash. Until then, I'll not stir the pot.
In two weeks, she gets her first check, so I'll be out of the controlling business anyway.
